I Don’t Want To Talk About It

When a child's parents tell her they have decided to divorce, the last thing she wants to do is talk about it. With her parents' help, she learns that while some things will change, many other things, especially their love for her, will remain the same.

When a child's parents tell her that they have decided to divorce, the last thing she wants to do is to talk about it. Instead, she wants to roar like a lion so she can't hear their words. This story reveals a range of feelings a young child might experience when a family is confronting divorce.

“Divorce is not easy. It can wreak emotional, financial and physical havoc on you and your family. But in Divorce Made Easier, Carol Delzer shows you how divorce can be done differently. Your divorce doesn’t need to be the traumatic, expensive and difficult process you’ve seen others go through. In this book, you’ll find the tools you need to make your divorce empowering, respectful and transformative, setting you up for a positive future. Psychiatrists and psychotherapists will tell you that divorce is one of life’s greatest stressors. Psychological studies put divorce right up there with death of a loved one or a critical illness in terms of the havoc it can wreak emotionally, financially and physically. But you probably already know that or you wouldn’t have picked up this book. After over twenty years in practice where I have worked with countless divorcing couples, I can tell you that divorce does not have to be as traumatic and difficult as so many divorces turn out to be. I won’t tell you that dissolving your marriage will be a walk in the park. That would be dishonest. But I will tell you that, with the right tools and the right approach, your divorce can be a positive launching pad for what’s next in your life. You may not believe me just yet. You may just be praying that you make it through your divorce without devastating your financial security, traumatizing the children and losing your own sanity in the process. Divorce as “a positive launching pad” might feel like an impossibility, the stuff of fairy tales. But can you at least entertain the possibility that your divorce doesn’t have to be horrendous and painfully contentious? That maybe you and your soon-to-be ex can work together to create a more positive outcome for the two of you and your children? That you all can come out on the other side of this feeling okay about yourself and each other? Depending on where you are, even that may seem a stretch. So I’ll ask you to just keep reading. Why should you trust me? I’ve been there and done that—and even got the t-shirt! It was my own divorce many years ago that inspired me to find less brutal ways to dissolve a marriage both legally and emotionally. I became a family law attorney with a specialty in divorce mediation and collaborative practice. And, knowing that the psychological or emotional side of divorce is equally as important as the legal side, I earned my LMFT as a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist. (My website www.FamilyLawCenter.US contains a detailed Curriculum Vitae.) I have helped over a thousand couples divorce and have witnessed the full gamut of financial circumstances, personality types, and causes for the separation, clients of all ages and ethnicities, and family dynamics. In 90% of these cases we were able to create a mutually acceptable dissolution through a process that was respectful, non-adversarial and much less expensive than so-called “normal” divorce proceedings. Usually in the beginning of the process, these clients were anxious and uncertain, struggling to figure out just how life would look after divorce. But by the time everything was finalized, the vast majority of them felt confident and empowered. You can too. Like my professional background, this book will focus on the emotional and psychological aspects of divorce as well as your options for the legal process. Why? Because, if you’re in a rotten place emotionally, you cannot make good decisions. And if you make bad decisions, it will be tough for you to recover emotionally and financially from the dissolution. The two go hand in hand.”

In Eight Weeks to Collaborative Co-Parenting for Divorcing Parents, family law specialist and mediator Carol F. Delzer shines a light of hope and sanity on the co-parenting process during a divorce. Too many children are pushed aside as their parents battle over issues that may or may not directly affect each child's well-being. So how can parents support their children through this difficult period? How do they move from marriage partners to parenting partners? Delzer shows how to build an honesty-based, collaborative relationship that resolves conflict, including managing emotions, showing mutual respect, and entering healthy negotiations. More than a guide, this is a program that the courts and parents can use to maximize a peaceful transition while minimizing the emotional damage suffered by their children. Straightforward and user-friendly, this book will help parents will learn the kind of positive collaborative wisdom that leads to healthier divorce and happier children.

Husbands are commanded to love their wives. But do you know what really makes your wife feel loved? Are you tired of missed cues and confusing signals?

Everyone has a primary love language-quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. In The Five Love Languages Men's Edition, #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides husbands in identifying, understanding, and speaking their wife's love language. Each chapter concludes with ten simple and practical ideas for expressing that love language to your wife. You'll both enjoy taking the new love languages assessment and building a lasting, loving marriage. 

My mission is to share and encourage families and woman that have experienced the same loss and to navigate through grief, understanding infant loss and adjusting to change.

My heart goes out to you and your family at this most difficult time in your lives.  I want you to know that I recognize the death of your baby as the human tragedy that it is.  No matter how long you were pregnant, how your baby died, or how many other children you may have, the loss of this child is painfully real, your feelings of grief are valid and the impact of your baby’s death on your lives is enormous.

I wanted to share Payton’s story and my story with others in an effort to begin my healing and to help others that need support because there was no support for me.

Grief is hard, even for those around that are trying to support the person grieving. 

It also helps people understand and assist a family and/or friend honor the memory of their baby, educate parents about complicated grief, and encouraging hope/healing after the loss of their baby.

The book is pages of information, laced with powerful, poignant stories and poems of SIDS and infant death experiences. It provides practical advice on how to survive the death of a child from those who have been there, and authoritative medical information on SIDS and infant death. 

The most comprehensive book ever written on SIDS, it covers everything from the particular grief of mothers, fathers, siblings, grandparents, friends, and child-care providers to guilt, anger, dreams, premonitions, peer and professional support, emergency response, funeral planning, enduring anniversaries, and having subsequent children.

First Candle/SIDS Alliance calls the book "simply the best book on SIDS available for bereaved families."